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Accepting Reality - The First Step to Transformation

accepting reality

Some times when I meditate, I will receive subtle messages that I will continue to ponder and meditate throughout the coming days. The message I received last week was about the importance of accepting reality and embracing it fully with unconditional love.

I have been thinking about this simple yet profound concept of accepting reality and I believe I’ve come up with some insight that has been useful in my life and I hope will be to yours as well.

I don’t know about you, but I tend to want to fight and argue with reality sometimes often. I might think, Why don’t I feel good today? Why is this person so difficult? Why aren’t things happening as fast as or how I think they should happen?

I notice that when I am in this energy of denial, judgment, and struggle with reality that my energy feels tight, like it’s tied up in a knot. There is no room for new energy to come in.

I notice that when I am able to release the resistance to reality and to completely embrace and accept it with unconditional love, an opening occurs in my being, an opening that allows me to see my reality in a different light. An opening that brings in a new wave of inspiration, motivation, and opportunity that wasn’t available when I was so busy fighting against it.

I notice that when I accept things just as they are, a softening occurs in my being where I now start to see that I can work with (not against) the reality in front of me. That I can be partners (friends even) with reality and work to make things better.

Accepting reality allows my consciousness to transform on a core level, where before I just wanted instant change (without the lessons) and without the complete transformation. I begin to see that there are universal forces at work that are leading me to a bigger picture that I might not be aware of yet.

Accepting Reality Exercise

Here is an accepting reality exercise you can try:

  • Sit with yourself in silent meditation and visualize something that you have a hard time accepting. It could be a person, a situation, a health problem, or simply just a part of you in your mind’s eye. You might see it as a color, a picture, or it might just be a feeling.
  • Imagine embracing the situation with all your heart. Imagine all the resistance, struggle, judgments, and expectations you feel towards this situation just melting and releasing away.
  • Say to it (out loud or to yourself):

I accept and love you unconditionally just as you are.

  • And really mean it. Trust that this situation is just what you need. Trust that this situation is leading you to something bigger that you may not understand right now. Trust and surrender.
  • Continue to embrace this situation with your unconditional love and acceptance until you can just let it be. Do this exercise as many times as necessary.

I can’t guarantee what will happen after you do this exercise but I know that for me, I just feel lighter and my life seems to flow with ease. I feel much guidance and assistance from above and I feel a sense of peace knowing that acceptance is the first step of an ancient process of transformation, that is older than time. Acceptance is the first step to true transformation.

This process is simple, but I wouldn’t say it’s easy for me (not yet anyways). It’s simple, yet powerful. I have tried it even on my darkest deepest of pains. I have found even pain can be embraced in the spirit of love and acceptance. I believe that love is the most powerful force in the universe and that there is nothing so strong that it cannot be softened by the power of unconditional love and acceptance.

This was the original message I received (in video form) while meditating the other day that started the idea for this blog post:

Hope this blog post gave you a lot to think about. As always, please do share your comments:)

P.S. If you liked this exercise you will like my recorded meditation mp3s.

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CeciliaCecilia is a gifted and compassionate intuitive healer and meditation teacher who is passionately dedicated to helping sensitive and intuitive people tap into their soul power to live strong, balanced, and purposeful lives. Learn more about Cecilia and schedule an intuitive healing session.


13 Comments Post a comment
  1. Yes Cecilia, I so completely agree with you I don’t even know why I am writing a comment.
    But it does feel good sometimes to just share.

    Acceptance has got to be the answer always to what shows up in our lives! Since our physical
    “reality” is a mirror to our inner state, what is “projected” out there has to be embraced even,
    or rather seen as what it is; a reflection .. to be “forgiven”= seen in the light of truth. We are realizing more and more what this truth is / and together we strengthen this love/light in each other. God Bless, much love from me.

    June 29, 2012
    • Cecilia #

      Hi Marianne,

      I am so glad you did comment, people will read your comments and I feel like you brought another layer of understanding to the equation. If our inner state reflects our outer reality, then accepting reality we are accepting ourselves! Thanks for the insight. ~ Cecilia

      June 29, 2012
  2. Sharon #

    Thanks for the reminder. Life was so much easier when I was able to accept. Going through hard times this past year was very difficult because of the resistance. I always told everyone things stayed the same until you accepted what is. THAT is when the change occurs. This reminded me again of what to do.

    June 29, 2012
    • Cecilia #

      Hi Sharon,

      Thanks for sharing. We all need reminders once and awhile:) Best of luck to you,

      June 29, 2012
  3. Richard #

    It all depends on what we mean by reality. This 3-dimensional world? Yes, I do agree wholeheartedly but only if we have in mind our mini-world we live in. There is no point in fighting, quarrelling, living just looking for misunderstandings, etc.

    But I suppose our reality is larger than that. Look at our world, our planet. Man has had to fight all the time in order to survive whether you take the perspective of mainstream or alternative science.

    The human being, mind you, cannot afford to accept reality even with love, especially nowadays when something serious is in the pipeline. New serfdom is in the offing.

    There is a lot of evil in this world and there are those who want to create the NWO at all costs. Shall we sit back with arms folded and accept this with love in order to take the first step towards our transformation?

    I don’t want to bore you to death but watch this piece if you haven’t done so yet.

    It is not the only example. Far from it. There are hundreds of hours worth watching /listening to on the Internet. Just search.

    We don’t have to be fully occupied with this stuff, but we must be aware of it. When the chips are down, don’t tell me that you did not know, because nobody had told you about it…

    Watch / Listen to the Project Camelot. It is on your Californian soil., Cecilia. How can we embrace this reality with love?

    With lots of love,
    Richard, EU, Portugal

    June 29, 2012
    • Cecilia #

      Hi Richard,

      Embracing reality with love, does not mean sitting back and not doing anything about the situation. For me it has been quite the contrary, when I finally accept something then I find I have more energy to begin to change the situation. It is not resignation, it is actually the first step to change. I don’t see why it can’t be applied to any situation, even world situations. Perhaps embracing with love, even the most difficult situations would give us a new perspective on how to solve them. It is a completely new way of thinking, a new way of being, and I believe it is worth exploring . . . Thanks always for your thought provoking comments ~ Cecilia

      June 29, 2012
      • Richard #

        Cecilia, thank you for your good reply. I am with you… but only if we mean the micro-scale. It is beyond my ken how one can embrace all those bandits, who hold the whole world to ransom, with love.
        You must have heard the following proverb, which is the folks’ wisdom:
        If you want peace, prepare for war.
        This truth is not only in English. Others say the same (with a literal translation into English).
        PT: Se queres paz, prepara-te para a guerra.
        “If you want peace, prepare yourself for the war”
        ES: Si quieres paz, prepárate para la guerra.
        “If you want peace, prepare yourself for the war”
        Quien espada lleva, paz trae. “Who sword carries, peace brings”
        DE: Wer Friede haben will, muss zum Kriege rüsten.
        “Who peace have wants (=wants to have), must for-the war arm”
        SE: Om du vill fred, rusta för krig. “If you want peace, arm for war”
        PL: JeÅ›li chcesz pokoju, szykuj siÄ™ do wojny”If you want peace, get-ready to war”
        RU: Xotchesh’ mira – gotovsja k vojne “You want peace, prepare yourself to war”

        They want us to be agreeable and accept reality with or without love – it makes no difference to them. But massive awakening scares them a bit.

        June 29, 2012
  4. Chris #

    Cecilia, great insight, i like how you think. I feel that some may see acceptance as condoning that which is, but you seem to draw a picture of being in synch or simply aware of what is as the point from which one forms an action or nonaction.

    First be with what is, then become that which is possible.

    does my reflection of your insight seem accurate?


    June 29, 2012
    • Cecilia #

      Hi Chris,

      Yes, thank you Chris, I think your interpretation is accurate.

      The energy of unconditional love and acceptance to me is completely neutral, there is no judgement one way or the other. It is a level beyond duality.

      Thank you for your insight ~ Cecilia

      June 29, 2012
  5. Casey #

    You know when your in love and all the songs sing of love and when your heart broken all the songs on the radio sing about your heart break? Today I heard Katty Perry “eyes wide open” and the next song was “turn up the love”

    I live in a paradise and am blessed when ever we have visitors because they remind me of the beauty all around me. Thank you Cecilia! When ever we “speak” I am reminded of my beauty! Your wonderful!

    June 29, 2012
    • Cecilia #

      Awesome! Thanks for sharing. You do live in paradise, you lucky lady:)

      June 29, 2012
  6. Hi Cecilia,
    Thank you for such a beautiful message! It is appropriate for today for me. I was faced with a situation that came at a time I truly could do “nothing” about it. In the past, I have succumbed to worry and anger and fear, my mind playing out the possibilities. Today, I focused on good and affirmed good but oh my, it was a struggle inside! As I talked to the angels about it, I kept hearing to “let go” “everything is okay” “trust”.
    When I got home, I just let go and cried. I felt so bad about the inner struggle. I talked to Jeshua and then I checked into the situation and it truly was okay. But it was pointed out to me that because I had put good positive energy into the day before work, and put effort into focusing on peace and trust, even with some resistance, things turned out okay.
    Thank you for the message. You’re a sweetie!

    June 29, 2012
    • Cecilia #

      I’m so glad things turned out okay. Thanks for sharing your story I know myself and others can definitely relate. I like what you said about affirming and focusing on the good. I find it is easier to focus and be grateful for the positive when I let go and just see things as they are. Best of Luck. ~ Cecilia

      June 29, 2012

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